Finding the Sweet Spot between Overly Ambitious and Uninspiring

1000 Things TargetDo you ever set goals for yourself that are so big that you either don’t get started or you give up early on because the end point seems unreachable? Or maybe you go for something that is doable but dull? This is the exact dilemma I wanted to avoid when setting targets for the ‘1000 Things Declutter Game’.

My tendency is to be a bit over ambitious and this Game was no exception. I was clear about the number of things I wanted to declutter, i.e. 1000, because that number has energy for me. At times it seems perfectly doable at others it seems unreachable. But, overall, it feels fun and something worth exploring.

I wasn’t so sure about the time frame though. I wanted to set one so I would have some structure and a way to measure progress but it was important it wasn’t so overly ambitious that I’d give up on day 3!

My first idea was 30 days but then I realised I’d have to get rid of more than 33 items a day to meet it which, let’s face it, is highly unlikely and doesn’t leave much space for fun along the way. So, in the end after much too-ing and fro-ing, I settled for – “by end of 2015” – which still gives me more than 4 items a day to dump, recycle, sell or give away but seems a nice balance between challenge and manageable.

Interestingly when I brought this up in my Mastermind Group the general consensus was that both the length of time and number of items were overly ambitious and would be overwhelming for most people. At first I went along with that but then saw that if I changed the parameters it would become uninspiring for me so it would fall apart anyway. So I’m sticking with 1000 by the end of the year. However, I’m setting it up so that anyone can join in at anytime and set targets that work for them.

So . . . if you’re thinking of joining (and why wouldn’t you be? :-) ) I encourage you to start thinking about what targets would work for you. If 1000 things by the end of the year doesn’t excite you, how many things in how long a time would? What numbers both inspire and challenge you without being overly ambitious? Most importantly, what would be fun for you?

And, even if you’re not interested in playing the ‘1000 Things’ Game, are there projects in your life that you could apply these ideas to? Go ahead and let us know what you come up with.

I’ll be posting more about The Game as it unfolds and will be providing useful and fun downloads and mini-challenges. If you’d like to join in please leave a comment and I’ll let you know when we get going and what you need to do next. If you’re reading this in an email, just click the title and you will be taken straight to the blog post comments. Or, if you prefer to join in on Facebook you can request to join the group here:  (You might need to friend me first? :-) )

It’s Time to Let Go, Simplify and Have Fun

1000 Things Game Sign UpHow much stuff do you have in your life that you don’t use, need or even like? If you’re anything like me it’s probably more than you’d care to admit. Feeling overwhelmed by stuff seems to be part and parcel of modern day life and one way lots of us deal with this is to periodically have a good clear out of things in our environment. This desire to let go and simplify has been growing stronger in me over the last couple of weeks so I’ve set up a game to make decluttering fun and would like to invite you to play along.

It all began when my daughter was nearing the end of her pregnancy and we went through some keepsakes we’d put away from when she was a child. Some of them were useful to her for the new baby and she duly took those home. Some of them she didn’t want but I felt sentimentally attached to so they went back in the box. Some were more suitable for a girl so, not knowing the baby’s gender at that point, they also went back in the box.

Fast forward a few months . . . the lovely Cooper has been born and Rebecca needs another baby sleeping bag. I remember there is one in the keepsake box so out it comes again.

By this time, Rebecca had decided that she didn’t want to return to work until she really had to, so she was planning to have a boot sale to raise funds. That made the decluttering easier, since we could let go of stuff that we thought might sell which in turn inspired us to be more ruthless generally.

The following weekend John sorted out some stuff to take to the Municipal Dump so I took the opportunity to get rid of more stuff, this time items I’d collected with which to make some altered art. The truth is that altered art pieces are low down on my list of things I’m likely to create so I dumped, recycled or took to a charity shop the bits I’d collected for that purpose.

That same weekend I came across a couple of articles about decluttering and, having been reminded of the sense of space that comes from letting go of stuff, I wanted to do more. I was inspired by a couple of Decluttering Challenges I found on the web and decided to create my own.

However, although a part of me likes the idea of a “challenge” I’m not very good at sustaining the initial energy and enthusiasm that comes from the early high so I decided to tackle this more playfully.

So, the ‘1000 Things Declutter Game’ was born.

I’ll be posting more about The Game as it unfolds and will be providing useful and fun downloads and mini-challenges. If you’d like to join in please leave a comment and I’ll let you know when we get going and what you need to do next. If you’re reading this in an email, just click the title and you will be taken straight to the blog post comments. Or, if you prefer to join in on Facebook you can request to join the group here:  (You might need to friend me first? :-) )

‘Inspired Life’ Discovery Sessions!

Announcing ‘Inspired Life’ Discovery Sessions!

I’m beyond excited to announce that I’m now offering a number of free 60 min Discovery Sessions to explore what would be a truly inspiring life for you. Forget what you think you could have. Forget what you think you should have and settle for nothing less than full out brilliant!

discovery sessionsWe’ll talk on Skype or Facetime (phone if we must :-)) and dig deep to get at the real treasure that’s waiting for you.

I’ve currently allocated enough time for 10 calls and I’ve already done 3. I may do more as they’re turning out to be a huge success and heaps of fun but . . . there’s no guarantee.

Grab your slot now, while my “inspired to do this” guage is at 100%. Let’s go for it!

Pick your slot here:

P.S.  If it’s not something that’s of interest to you right now but you know someone who is struggling a bit, needing clarification, feeling stuck or would just generally benefit from a different perspective, please pass the link on.

Thanks a bunch!

The Meaning Of Life Is . . . ?

So what do you reckon the meaning of life is then?

meaning of lifeIt’s been 4 months since I’ve written a blog post but I came across something this morning that inspired me to put pen to paper and I’m really curious as to what your views are.

In his book “Yes, Yes, Hell No”, Brian Whetten writes:

“The meaning of life is growth, contribution, connection, and creativity”.

I’m intrigued by how sure he seems of that, which got me curious as to what you all think.

Is it a question you’ve pondered and, if so, what conclusions have you come to?

It’s something I contemplated more in my youth than now. It used to feel really important to me then. So much so that when a friend of mine innocently asked “what if there is no meaning?” I became deeply distressed. It was something I was simply unable to contemplate – a meaningless life!

Eventually I made my peace with the question and nowadays I’m happy with both the idea that there is no meaning and with the idea that there is but I don’t know what it is and may never know.

My answer to the question of “what is the meaning of life?” I settled on sometime ago. It is that we create own meaning. We make it up. Life means whatever we decide it means. So, when I read Brian’s statement my curiosity was aroused.

What do you think? Have you any answers? Is it a waste of time to even ask the question?

Please leave a comment below or, if you’re reading this in an email, click on the title and go to my blog.

I’m eagerly awaiting your responses!

Maybe Being A Princess Is The Answer After All!

Its not easy being a princess

When I first started coaching, about 20 years ago, I used to jokingly say “what I really want is for clients to find me and ask me to coach them. I can’t be assed with all this marketing stuff”.

Now I used the word “jokingly” not because I didn’t mean it but because I didn’t think it was possible. I thought I was being a bit of a princess and that was a bad thing.

Well, after many thousands of pounds spent on learning about marketing the right way and thousands of hours being bored out of my brains trying to implement it, my dream finally came true on Thursday. I enrolled my first, no effort at all, doesn’t know me from Adam, client.

He didn’t exactly knock on the front door, ring the bell and ask me to coach him but the whole thing transpired easily and seamlessly.

Here’s how it happened. Continue reading